Daily contemplation

I’ve been processing with some clients about self- blaming recently. During our discussions, what we see is that self blame could be a coping mechanism, a compensation of making sense of what happened, while unable to distinguish the responsibilities of the participants in a life event, or unable to reject the violation/ violence. By that, blaming oneself could be a way to avoid the pain of confusion and helplessness, even though it’s a self harming way.