Mental Wellness

Learned helplessness is a created experience to trigger our collapsed state. It is an effect the system constantly creates for the purpose of enslavement

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/learned-helplessness

Learned Helplessness

Learned helplessness occurs when an individual continuously faces a negative, uncontrollable situation and stops trying to change their circumstances, even when they have the ability to do so. For example, a smoker may repeatedly try and fail to quit. He may grow frustrated and come to believe that nothing he does will help, and therefore, he stops trying altogether. The perception that one cannot control the situation essentially elicits a passive response to the harm that is occurring.

Psychology Today

by Wei Wei

• 5 days, 19 hours ago

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The toxicity of comparison- social comparison bias

Social comparison bias can also be related with how our child schemas(maladaptive schemas) formed, such as defectiveness and shame.

Here is an article discussing the social comparison bias and the toxicity of it: https://thedecisionlab.com/reference-guide/psychology/social-comparison-theory

Social Comparison Theory - The Decision Lab

Social comparison theory explains how individuals assess their abilities, traits, and opinions by comparing themselves to others.

The Decision Lab

by Wei Wei

• 5 days, 19 hours ago

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A paradigm that might explain some stressful situations in our daily life, worth a study

A friend who is also a psychotherapist shared with me her recent studies on bully at workplaces and mentioned this “victim- persecutor- protector” paradigms (widely known in psychology as the Karpman Drama Triangle), which is a toxic social dynamic where three roles continuously interact to create conflict, avoid responsibility, and generate emotional chaos. It is a dilemma that commonly plays out in modern workplaces, families, and relationships.

Here is an article that explains this phenomenon: https://lksquaero.com/the-victim-rescuer-persecutor-paradigm-2/

There is so much to look into this when I looked up some research about this paradigm. The contemplation is, when this paradigm becomes …

Unlocking the Persecutor Paradigm and Be Empowered

Discover the Persecutor Paradigm and its transformative power. Break free from destructive cycle and embrace positive change. Empower yourself.

LKS Quaero

by Wei Wei

• 5 days, 19 hours ago

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The absent state- from an Existential-phenomenological angle: Rollo May wrote about dissociation as a felt sense of separateness from the world and from oneself

https://www.shortform.com/blog/dissociation-trauma-response/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=pmax&utm_campaign=23621407657&utm_content=6684109633&utm_term=&utm_creative_format=x&utm_marketing_tactic=&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=23626453634&gbraid=0AAAAACvyfSSXH4GtSIySdDpC46z-dHaaH&gclid=Cj0KCQjwguLSBhDLARIsAH-yPrF7Id18ENpbvupHQ75sIC96OUIK7gkQ_uGXJFwDNY8Bq3KmJCrLossaAjzAEALw_wcB

Understanding the Dissociation Trauma Response: Amber’s Case

What is the dissociation trauma response? What does it look like? Read this case study and analysis for an example of a dissociative response.

Shortform Books

by Wei Wei

• 5 days, 19 hours ago

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Avoidance Coping and why it creates additional stress— our coping methods a lot of times are inefficient and might create more problems

https://www.verywellmind.com/avoidance-coping-and-stress-4137836

by Wei Wei

• 5 days, 19 hours ago

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Therapy Dairy

It’s been very delightful recently during my work sessions when clients started raising their own inquiries. This morning, a client asked: “I see that currently I am struggling with this issue at work, no matter what happened in the past, no matter what my parents did that affected me to have this issue, I still need to deal with it by myself at this point, so what is the point of looking back and analyzing my past? My memory of the past also could be twisted.” She also asked:” Is there a state of me that’s not hurt, not damaged, …

by Wei Wei

• 1 week, 6 days ago

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Researching art therapy exercises related with childhood schemas (early maladaptive schemas)

Schema 1: Defectiveness / Shame

Exercise: “Hidden & Seen”
Fold a paper in half. On the outside: draw how you presented yourself to the world as a child. On the inside: draw what you kept hidden. Reflect on what it would mean for the inside to be acceptable.

Schema 2: Subjugation / Loss of Autonomy

Exercise: “What I Wanted”
Using non-dominant hand drawing (to bypass the inner critic), make marks, shapes, or images representing things you wanted but couldn’t have or say as a child. No rules about what it “should” look like.

by Wei Wei

• 2 weeks, 1 day ago

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How does Lobsters grow?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dcUAIpZrwog

How do Lobsters grow?

The Founders Mindset

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by Christelle Boil

• 1 month ago

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Superiority complex: the stubbornness in humanity and the mental mechanism of narcissism

“A superiority complex means that a person has an exaggerated opinion of their abilities and accomplishments. They may behave in ways that suggest they believe they are better than other people.

However, a person with a superiority complex may actually be trying to mask, hide, or overcompensate for feelings of inferiority.

When Adler first began exploringTrusted Source individual psychology, he believed that a superiority complex may begin in childhood. He theorized that a person’s upbringing could lay the groundwork for feelings of inferiority. This could cause them to feel the need to overcompensate when they reached school age, thus creating …

Superiority complex: Signs, causes, coping, and more

A superiority complex involves a person's exaggerated opinions of their own abilities and achievements. Learn more here.

medicalnewstoday.com

by Wei Wei

• 1 month, 2 weeks ago

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Studying the cognitive biases and defense mechanisms that interfere with our learning and embracing the unknown

One phenomenon that researches show is the Illusion of Explanatory Depth (IOED), which is a well-documented cognitive bias where we believe we understand how the world works much better than we actually do. We could mistake familiarity with everyday phenomena for true mastery of our underlying mechanisms.

Here is an article exploring this phenomenon: Why do we think we understand this world more than we actually do? https://thedecisionlab.com/biases/the-illusion-of-explanatory-depth

The Illusion of Explanatory Depth - The Decision Lab

The illusion of explanatory depth (IOED) describes our belief that we understand more about the world than we actually do.

The Decision Lab

by Wei Wei

• 1 month, 2 weeks ago

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One common effect of being in a relationship / friendship with a narcissist is cognitive dissonance

https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-cognitive-dissonance-2795012

by Wei Wei

• 1 month, 3 weeks ago

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Cognitive Psychology- about learning

In the process of learning anything, from getting information to understanding to integration to embodiment, as long as learning is continuous, the process will evolve naturally, as our system is very intelligent and will adapt through the learning. However, when we stop at certain point, and use the temporary result to conclude ourselves or learning itself, we will feel defeated for helpless.

Sometimes others or society would judge the result as well, and reducing us by violating our learning process.

All learning takes time, and as a learner, not underestimating the effort to be made is critical. If we are …

by Wei Wei

• 1 month, 3 weeks ago

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Adler’s studies challenged Freud’s theories

Adler was questioning that if our past was the reason of our current life, then since we cannot travel back to the past to change what happened, then does that mean we are unable to change our current forever? Was it all fated at the beginning?

Apparently it’s not true. The moment a person wakes up to respond to life, the knowledge of the past is irrelevant, that’s the direction of the new studies. The inquiry is how do we learn to respond?

by Wei Wei

• 1 month, 3 weeks ago

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The collective mind

I was listening to podcasts about Latino literatures and art history. The scholars mentioned that in the history of western mind, the Latino, Asian, African, Middle Eastern literatures and cultures were used to be measured and critiqued by Western thinking and philosophy. What I see is that the collective mind reduces all to its limitation and build an identify of privilege, which is embedded with arrogance and violence. The grandness, the uniqueness, the beauty of all different kinds of creations in humanity cannot be defined or judged in one context.

We shrink, and doubt, and get denied by the collective …

by Wei Wei

• 1 month, 3 weeks ago

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Learning is therapeutic and learning is about asking questions

I’ve been taking classes and all the studies (art, history, psychology, Masters’ teachings…) are revealing one key: learning is about asking questions. What questions to ask, how to clarify the questions, how to explore the questions, how to find out about the questions, how to stay with the questions, etc. It’s an exciting journey and soon our intelligence will kick in. Healing starts.

by Wei Wei

• 1 month, 3 weeks ago

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Today’s inquiry

When ego is in function, the sense of reality is distorted, we are experiencing the pain of delusions, then we are not in creation, not in wellness, not with the more. However even though cognitively knowing it, biologically experiencing it, dropping it might take much longer than assumed. Why we can’t drop it when things fall apart and nothing good come out of it? Could it be the profit of this pain is the sense of ego.

by Wei Wei

• 1 month, 3 weeks ago

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Very simple exercise, can be developed into art therapy activity

https://www.instagram.com/reel/DYZ82rzMqXY/?igsh=ZzczMDl5eGNqbTY=

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by Wei Wei

• 1 month, 3 weeks ago

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Daily contemplation

I’ve been processing with some clients about self- blaming recently. During our discussions, what we see is that self blame could be a coping mechanism, a compensation of making sense of what happened, while unable to distinguish the responsibilities of the participants in a life event, or unable to reject the violation/ violence. By that, blaming oneself could be a way to avoid the pain of confusion and helplessness, even though it’s a self harming way.

by Wei Wei

• 1 month, 3 weeks ago

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I’m so grateful that they are my friends 🧡

by Wei Wei

• 1 month, 3 weeks ago

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The Dunning-Kruger effect

While studying the certification course Lesson 5- beyond the known, found some studies about the Dunning- Kruger effect. According to the studies, maintaining a healthy degree of intellectual humility and uphold disciple-hood, which is constant learning is the only way to go beyond the Dunning- Kruger effect.

“The Dunning-Kruger effect is a cognitive bias where people with limited knowledge or competence in a specific domain greatly overestimate their own skills. It occurs because individuals lack the self-awareness and expertise required to accurately recognize their own incompetence.

The concept is typically broken down into specific psychological phases and dynamics:

The Confidence …

by Wei Wei

• 2 months ago

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Recommended by my supervisor

Recently encountered a sociopath case. Reading this book to study more about sociopathy.

by Wei Wei

• 2 months, 1 week ago

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The reason for failure to act

Chop wood carry water

by Master

• 2 months, 2 weeks ago

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Lies cost and consume our brain much more

I was reading articles about neural activities when we are lying. The research results show obviously that when we lie, our working memory is much more overloaded and the whole process of lying consumes more mental effort. Very interestingly that sometimes we assume lying rather than telling the truth is an escape or laziness, while it’s actually more work and more costing.

by Wei Wei

• 2 months, 2 weeks ago

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Ambiguity Effect (Why do we prefer options we know?)

Today’s contemplation: “Am I living to reduce everything to my known or am I living to challenge my known?”

Some neuroscience and psychology studies tried to explain why we reduce everything to our known. I recall the ambiguity effect studied by Ellsberg. The sadhna is to challenge this condition and go beyond.

Here is an article explaining the ambiguity effect: https://thedecisionlab.com/biases/ambiguity-effect

Ambiguity Effect - The Decision Lab

The ambiguity effect is a cognitive bias that describes how we tend to avoid options that we consider to be ambiguous.

The Decision Lab

by Wei Wei

• 2 months, 2 weeks ago

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This can be designed into an art therapy activity

https://www.instagram.com/p/DXmo4wtiAXD/?igsh=MXUydXJzb2QyZW5mcg==

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by Wei Wei

• 2 months, 3 weeks ago

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Contemplation

Am I learning to be free from the trauma or am I patching it up to feel “I’m okay”?

by Wei Wei

• 2 months, 3 weeks ago

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Kogi and Emma Wei Wei

Podcast on therapy

by Master

• 2 months, 4 weeks ago

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The combination of art and psychology

https://www.instagram.com/p/DWw24f8DO63/?img_index=14&igsh=MTZyazN1ZnAyZ2kwdg==

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by Wei Wei

• 2 months, 4 weeks ago

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When we complain, we are already helpless

Master pointed this out that “don’t complain, when you complain, you are already helpless. Learn to respond. Respond, no complain.”

So true. Today when I catch myself complaining, I ask me “what am I helpless about? What is my response?”

by Wei Wei

• 3 months ago

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Second video: why sometimes we don’t learn? What is the mindset that’s preventing us from learning or growing?

Figuring out the content and the format of creating videos

by Wei Wei

• 3 months ago

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First video

Testing. Still learning how to use editing apps and AI tools. Welcome feedback 🙏

by Wei Wei

• 3 months ago

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If the orphans in Gaza didn’t provoke me to see how lucky I am and cherish what I have, then I deserve to be miserable

by Wei Wei

• 3 months ago

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Catastrophic Thinking and Downward Flow

I was sitting with a friend yesterday who drove me to an emergency eye procedure and was reminded how differently people respond to things. I was worried by this referral that came out of a regular routine check up. As concerning as it was - a small tear in the retina. I framed it as "I am so fortunate that I scheduled the exam. And, this is being held by a Master, the More provided or I created the opportunity to get the appointment."
What I didn't know was my friend had some "bad news" about her eyes a few …

Catastrophizing

Catastrophizing is a cognitive distortion that prompts people to jump to the worst possible conclusion, usually with very limited information or objective reason to despair. When a situation is upsetting, but not necessarily catastrophic, they still feel like they are in the midst of a crisis.

Psychology Today

by Karen Sherbina

• 3 months, 1 week ago

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Worth a listen

https://youtu.be/q3AjAGkjJck?si=WJLWrEskSEjASkl2

Does a COVERT narcissist only show their TRUE SELF when they’re TRIGGERED?

DoctorRamani

YouTube

by Wei Wei

• 3 months, 2 weeks ago

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Art Therapy Experience

Last year I participated in an online support group to work through some struggles with cancer survivorship. A complex thing, one little surgery, one little pill for 5 years and so many unexpected changes. A good example of using ABC to create space and these cards with a few insights on the back of them to keep me centered.
I chose collage as it is easy to do and unstructured or structured depending on you and the day. Also a nonthreatening approach to "art" for many - anyone can cut out pictures and grab a glue stick.

by Karen Sherbina

• 3 months, 2 weeks ago

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Art Therapy Card

I will try and share a few more in Mental Health, with some comments, but having issues uploading the photos.

by Karen Sherbina

• 3 months, 2 weeks ago

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Be the ones who cheer another up

https://www.instagram.com/reel/DWRRxl8D6dK/?igsh=dzZnOWE3amNlcDhk

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by Wei Wei

• 3 months, 2 weeks ago

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Wah art therapy activity

https://www.instagram.com/reel/DUlwaVoEtHJ/?igsh=bWFhenp0cDVieTVt

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by Wei Wei

• 3 months, 3 weeks ago

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Art therapy activity

https://www.instagram.com/reel/DVbEjBsDAEt/?igsh=dm80YXVmbDA3cXQ4

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by Wei Wei

• 3 months, 3 weeks ago

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Art therapy activity

https://www.instagram.com/reel/DTXlDgWCJ2V/?igsh=MW9zNXhzZmRnbWV3OQ==

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by Wei Wei

• 3 months, 3 weeks ago

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Daily Reflection

by Wei Wei

• 3 months, 3 weeks ago

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This is so cool! Simple and creative. An art therapy activity!

https://www.instagram.com/reel/DWXM-oWEX07/?igsh=MXB0N243M2piMjhnYw==

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by Wei Wei

• 3 months, 3 weeks ago

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A clear demonstration

https://www.instagram.com/reel/DWT17gADDbP/?igsh=MWkyN3NudzNvaG11ZA==

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by Wei Wei

• 3 months, 3 weeks ago

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Daily reflection

I catch myself recently in psychotherapy trainings and art classes, paying attention to one question:” Why did this psychologist/artist do or say this?”I found that when I contemplate this, I see me back in the picture. I was looking at it, not just at a surface level, to get the information. It’s not copying or quoting what others say or do. I was observing the foundation of the work. There are certain rules, principles, and quorum that demand the professionals and artists to follow, and I am looking at that through each one’s individual expressions, then I ask myself, “What …

by Wei Wei

• 3 months, 3 weeks ago

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Brilliant demonstration

https://www.instagram.com/reel/DVG1FkmCp6T/?igsh=MTBtdWw3ZjJ5em9wYQ==

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by Wei Wei

• 3 months, 4 weeks ago

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The power of learning

This morning, I had a conversation with a client who is a scientist and professor. I was always amazed by how this client held her work and research, the dignity she held. After the session, while I was painting, it suddenly occurred to me that some clients who are scholars and artists present this dynamic of learning and inquiry, which supports them in holding their dignity.

All of us struggle. What I’ve observed is that the resilience built on this learning momentum is powerful. We can always find our strength through inquiry, curiosity, and exploration. Truth is empowering in this …

by Wei Wei

• 4 months ago

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Listened to Janja Garnbret’s athletic life story, 6 years 61 gold medals, one of World’s best climbers

https://youtu.be/pZCmsYxHRB8?si=3AT-0w8VGckyCuiE

After watching her climbing, so inspiring, wanna say “Thank you 🙏”

- YouTube

Enjoy the videos and music you love, upload original content, and share it all with friends, family, and the world on YouTube.

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by Wei Wei

• 4 months ago

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I don’t know how to describe it, but you’ll know after watching

原来英语骂人可以这么高级视频中的两句经典表达 1️... http://xhslink.com/o/15dQpCcs6As
Copy and open Xiaohongshu to view the full post！

小红书 - 你访问的页面不见了

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by Wei Wei

• 4 months ago

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Daily reflection

by Wei Wei

• 4 months ago

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Kids don’t panic because they make mistakes, they panic because of your reactions

https://www.instagram.com/reel/DVHHakFEo_0/?igsh=aWN0NWRuMmpqaXAx

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by Wei Wei

• 4 months, 1 week ago

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Some people just pretend with you, but they are not doing what they say

https://www.instagram.com/reel/DUFBiOhiZ4K/?igsh=MTZuYm9iZ3I5Zmg4Mg==

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by Wei Wei

• 4 months, 1 week ago

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When trust breaks, our nerve system remembers, that’s why apology isn’t enough

https://www.instagram.com/reel/DU0j52ajZ4C/?igsh=anFjOTl4NXpvZmxu

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by Wei Wei

• 4 months, 2 weeks ago

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Art therapy

by Wei Wei

• 6 months, 3 weeks ago

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Key to health

by Master

• 6 months, 3 weeks ago

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Autism/ ADHD/ Giftedness chart

by Wei Wei

• 7 months, 1 week ago

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morning talk with Gregory part 2

When clients show manipulative or abusive behaviors

by Wei Wei

• 7 months, 2 weeks ago

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morning talk with Gregory part 1

When therapists complain about cases or clients

by Wei Wei

• 7 months, 2 weeks ago

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Foucault - Biopower, Governmentality and the Subject

https://youtu.be/AXyr4Zasdkg

by Abhi

• 7 months, 3 weeks ago

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"The dark history of IQ tests"

https://youtu.be/W2bKaw2AJxs

This summer I joined a course at Uppsala university on "Critical perspectives on the history of psychology". They shared some really good youtube video content amongst literature and podcasts, and I wanted to share some of the videos I found
interesting.

The dark history of IQ tests - Stefan C. Dombrowski

TED-Ed

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by Abhi

• 7 months, 3 weeks ago

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Quoted by Master Dhyan Vimal

“In one’s wellbeing, many will be blessed.”

by Wei Wei

• 7 months, 3 weeks ago

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What types of reactions are narcissistic?

A friend read my earlier post about Narcissists’ intense reaction to avoid feeling “shame”, and shared to me that someone reacted to things she said several times which bothered her a bit. She was wondering if such situation revealed a narcissistic behavior.

I think certain distinctions also need to be put into consideration regarding such situation. First, one fact is everyone reacts, that’s inevitable for a human being when some discomfort occurs. It’s embedded in human race’s biological system as we are still an evolving race.

Then how to distinguish whether it’s a narcissistic behavior or a common reaction of …

by Wei Wei

• 7 months, 3 weeks ago

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悲伤和愤怒是一个硬币的两个面

悲伤和愤怒两种情绪联系得很紧密。有时持续的悲伤下面可能更深的情绪是愤怒。因为文化或者经历的影响，对产生愤怒有负罪感，所以不敢表现愤怒的结果是涌动的悲伤和自怜。同时，那些愤懑和怨怼的行为背面也可能潜藏着强烈的悲伤，因为对伤感和悲戚的情绪有羞耻感，所以有攻击性的愤怒成为了替代表达。这种攻击不仅对外也对内，可能对悲伤这个情绪有评判有拒绝，所以对自己的脆弱作出了指责的动作，由此体验到愤怒。也因为无法释放深处的伤痛，而感到堵塞，当我们感到堵塞时，也自然会有生气的感觉。

也许那些攻击感强的人其实是很难过，也许那些很伤心的人其实是想发火。

by Wei Wei

• 7 months, 3 weeks ago

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How do we know the therapy room is a safe place?

There are many outstanding, kind, compassionate, and professional therapists/psychologists around the world. Meanwhile, it is not surprising anymore that we hear some news about therapists violating or abusing clients. In some cases, therapists conducted sexual violence in the therapy room. It shouldn’t have happened, but it happened, and not just once. When therapists put themselves in an authority figure or a power position, the therapy room can become a perfect space to exploit clients’ vulnerability. It is more harmful now if we don’t distinguish how safe we are with a therapist.

In my past training programs, some therapists would repeatedly …

by Wei Wei

• 8 months ago

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A creator is not enslaved by the experiences

Today’s observation:

What I was seeking for many years was experience. I was counting on the places I went, the people I met, and the experiences I had to determine who I am. Now, as I study creation and practice, I see that the experiences are irrelevant. What I choose to do and what has to be done are not dependent on the experience, and are not for the experience. A creator wakes up to the creation at hand, despite the experience, then we create the experiences instead of getting experiences, or craving for the experiences.

by Wei Wei

• 8 months ago

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A new concept about personality type — Otrovert

Besides introvert and extrovert, a new concept about personality type has been identified by psychologists and psychiatrists: otrovert.

by Wei Wei

• 8 months ago

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The real victims might not be loud.

What I have learned over the years is to observe the ones who accuse loudly, aggressively, and coldly. I would ask: “What is the intention of the accusation? Are they using the accusation to camouflage their own violence?“ Many times, I see that some people, when saying “I am a victim,” are also denying their violence and trying to manipulate others’ views so that they don’t have to take responsibility. Lots of NPD (narcissistic personality disorder) cases demonstrate this behavior.

Therefore, no matter how the accusation is phrased, listen to it and observe the accusers. It is not out of love, but they can claim it’s love.

by Wei Wei

• 8 months ago