The real victims might not be loud.

What I have learned over the years is to observe the ones who accuse loudly, aggressively, and coldly. I would ask: “What is the intention of the accusation? Are they using the accusation to camouflage their own violence?“ Many times, I see that some people, when saying “I am a victim,” are also denying their violence and trying to manipulate others’ views so that they don’t have to take responsibility. Lots of NPD (narcissistic personality disorder) cases demonstrate this behavior.